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Thursday, April 26, 2007

faith groups

The MOPS semester is about to end. I don't plan to do that again next semester. Sammy refuses to stay in the daycare, and it is against my parenting values to force him to. (I did try this one time, because so many people suggested it, and he woke up screaming and inconsolable from every nap for 4 days afterward. This is a kid who usually wakes up happy and chatty.) He is of course welcome in the meeting with me, but I don't get a lot out of it that way because I spend 85% of the meeting trying to keep him and Katie from being too disruptive. I also feel... I don't know... out of my element there. I am not nearly as organized as all these people are (or appear to be). I don't enjoy sitting in a chair for two and a half hours first thing in the morning. Sammy and I are allergic to most of the items brought for breakfast, and can't seem to get up early enough to get a big enough breakfast to tide us over until lunchtime before we go. I don't think it's necessary (or even healthy) to force seperation on my young toddler - and it certainly isn't relaxing or renewing for me to do so! I don't plan to put my kids in public shcool... I feel pretty safe in my decision that this group just isn't for me. Which made me a little sad, because I wanted it to be. The people are nice enough. They are just too "normie," I guess.

On a happier note, my Mommies' Faith Study group met tonight. I couldn't find anything at church (besides MOPS) to help strengthen my faith life where I felt my nursing toddler and baby would be welcome, so I started my own with two of my friends. We meet every week at my house, in the evening because one of them works. We read our book (currently A Mother's Rule of Life) for an hour and then eat dinner together. I get so much out of this group, even on the days we don't get any actual faith study done because the babies are too fussy. It is so much fun to see them interact together, and to have a safe outlet to vent or sing praises about what's going on in our lives. And to have our babies see us making an effort to get to know God better.

7 comments:

Mommy to Ander and Wife to Box said...

I am such a "normie" mom, yet I still feel out of element at our mommy's group sometimes. :) I think creating your own group with handpicked people sounds awesome! I love my playgroup, but I always feel like not a "good enough" mom.

Marie said...

I really don't get mom's groups that are all about not being with the kids. Anyway, it's great to start your own group! Personally I feel most of my faith formation (the practice part, at least) occurs when I'm with the kiddos, and in the midst of the chaos. I also think that most moms think every other mom has life more under control than they do! Forsaking comparisons is a #1 top priority to me.

Mathochist said...

I feel like a not good enough mom, too, a lot. Which is silly since I am completely devoting my life to it. I wonder how much of it has to do with how I was brought up - I never feel like I'm good enough in most areas of life. Oh, well... yet another area of my life to improve in.

I happen to know though that you are a great mom! ;) And I bet your kiddo thinks so too!

Mathochist said...

Marie, that's great that your faith life grows in the midst of the chaos. Mine gets ignored, which is why I looked so hard for something concrete (and regularly-occurring) that I could do that wouldn't compromise my motherhood values.

That is very interesting about forsaking comparisons being a priority. And not the first time I have heard the idea. I will have to ponder what this could mean for me. Thanks for the thought!

Stephanie said...

Marie I am with you on this one. I honestly feel like Max evangilizes me so much more than I ever though possible. I also can see my vocation as a mother being strengthed as I wipe my sons bottom, push him on a swing or play a game of checkes and even as a wife when i am tidying thehouse or getting dinner ready. When I am not 9+ months pregnant I can almost always find the joy and good in our day but for now we are focusong on putting people before things and teaching Max about taking care of people in need like Mommy ans sooon The baby will be lesson for a few months.......... Blessings Stephanie

Anonymous said...

What's MOPS?

Mathochist said...

Mothers of Preschoolers
http://www.mops.org/